A couple of months ago, I saw people doing this trend online, so here is my version. (‘For dessert’, because knowing me is knowing I have a sweet tooth, hence the title alteration).
Career
She was debating whether to drop out of University or not. Some of her relatives thought it would be better to get a job to support her siblings financially, but she was determined to see it through and even go to KSL (as many advised). She was hopeful that she would have a successful legal career, probably in Intellectual Property Law or International Trade Law
I told her I managed to finish University and even went to KSL, but shortly after, I quit pupillage unceremoniously, and it led me to a whole different career path. I told her it was the hardest decision I had ever made as someone who really took pride in her education and qualifications. I could not get people to understand why I did it, but I never felt a conviction so strong before. While looking at younger me, I still felt like we were the same person. That even though I seek advice and opinions from people, I ultimately make decisions that I feel in my gut are right for me. I told her I don’t associate quitting with failure anymore. I don’t believe I have to stick to one thing for the rest of my life; I am on my fourth job since 2022.
Faith
She told me that she could not even pray for herself. Grief had hit her so hard, and she didn’t think she could sustain a relationship with God after experiencing such pain. To top it off, she was so tired of people still using her as an ‘example of faith’ since high school. She felt it added so much pressure to her life. It bothered her that personal choices and decisions were made to become public standards for her to maintain and others to emulate.
I told her my relationship with God got better, and it even feels unreal at times. I told her I have seen God carry me through and work things out for me in ways no one could. I even joined an inter-denominational faith-based challenge called 75 Holy, and it was so lovely to consistently be among and in the presence of women who were totally about God.
We also talked about love, friendships and money …………………..
Coming up in the next post soon 🙂
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